The Future is (more) Female

Saudi women are stereotyped a lot, even among Arabs in neighboring countries. Some say things like “they are spoiled” , or “they shop a lot”  while others pity them by saying things like “those poor women…they have no rights.” These women have been a focal point of conversation this past year when driving became legal for women in the country.

For many Saudi women, they don’t see themselves as a victim of any catastrophic, oppressive culture. However, many do hope for greater chances to embrace their individuality and achieve their dreams.

I have met young Saudi artists, intellectuals, and activists who would like to change some aspects of their country for the better while still holding on to their culture and core beliefs. After all, it is things like traditions and customs that give the world its beautiful variety.

In case anyone is wondering, some of the cultural stereotypes here are somewhat true. Yes, fathers, husbands, and brothers often have the final say in many affairs. Some girls get married at a very young age, already married with one or two children by the time they finish high school. Many women stay home with children rather than go to work. Men sometimes have multiple wives. When I first came,  I didn’t want to believe these things actually existed. I thought these were exaggerated ideas invented by Western media outlets to make Arab culture appear inferior to their own.

But the experience of one woman or a few women isn’t true for all. I truly do feel that many women here are struggling, they simply can’t live their own lives or make their own decisions. Especially when it comes to the pivotal topic of marriage.

I would like you to read some stories from Saudi women. It is best to learn about them from their lens anyway, not mine. Here are some writing prompts I gave in class and student responses.

What will your life be like in 10 years?

In 10 years, I will be a better person. I will be in my own house and have a life of my own. I will be happy. I will have two cats, a canary bird, and a goldfish. I will have a library of my own, and it will contain all the books I have read in my life. I will improve my English in speaking, writing, and also reading. I will open a bookstore with a classic style. I will fight to be a girl with her own personality.

This is a very difficult question, because in 10 years I don’t know if I will be alive or dead[…] I wish to hold a high position in a company and have a high salary. I want to have a beautiful home with my family. Then, I wouldn’t need anybody and could depend on myself. Finally, I hope to be in good health. 

What would you do if you were queen of a small country?

If I were queen of a small country, I would rule it perfectly. First, I’d let my people be free with their religions and thoughts, everyone would be able to practice their own religion freely.